Awaken

“How can you awaken to a negative pattern that threatens to undermine you if you’re not willing to own it 100%?” — Richard Rudd

Own It to Awaken: The Power of Radical Self-Honesty

The question (above) in the Richard Rudd quote, hit me like a lightning bolt the first time I heard it. It’s uncomfortable. It’s confronting. And it’s exactly what most people want to avoid.

Because let’s be honest, owning our negative patterns isn’t easy. It’s far more convenient to justify them, minimize them, or project them onto other people. But as quote so wisely points out, there is no awakening, no real change, without full 100% ownership. Otherwise, we're just giving our power away and playing the blame game.

You can’t transform what you can't even acknowledge exists, right?

So what does it mean to “own” a negative pattern?

It means:

• Admitting to yourself that a part of you is sabotaging your success.

• Noticing that voice of comparison, judgment, blame or unworthiness, and not pretending it’s not there.

• Taking full responsibility for the way your beliefs, habits, and reactions are shaping your experience.

Not blaming your past. Not blaming your partner. Not blaming society. Just pausing, looking within, and saying: “Yes, this is mine. I see it. I own it.”

That’s the first crack of light. Can you let it, even just a little?

It’s not about shame. It’s about sovereignty.

Because once you own it, you can begin to rewire it. You can shift the narrative. You can break the cycle. But until you own it, guess what? It owns you.

And here’s the real danger of not owning it. When you don’t, it hides in the shadows. It lurks in the background, unexamined and unchecked, waiting for the perfect moment to sabotage your growth.

You’ll think you’re making progress… and then suddenly, you’re triggered. You freeze. You lash out. You procrastinate. Or you avoid it, feeling like you're not ready for it. You walk away from the opportunity you prayed for. You start spiraling in self-doubt or overthinking or defensiveness, and you won’t even know why.

It’ll feel like confusion. Or exhaustion. Or emotional chaos.
It might feel like a “bad day,” but really, it’s an old pattern rearing it's sabotaging head.

I know this pattern intimately because I’ve lived it.

There was a time when things were going really well in my business. I was landing amazing clients, growing my leads, getting tons of referrals and building momentum. On the outside, it looked like I was thriving.

But inside, something else was happening.

A deep, quiet sense of unworthiness began to creep in. I didn’t fully believe I deserved the success I was experiencing. Instead of receiving it with grace and ease, I tried to earn it, again and again. I overworked. I over-delivered. I ignored my body’s need for rest and relaxation. I pushed past every signal telling me to slow down.

I didn’t self-regulate. I didn’t self-care. And eventually… I burned out.

Looking back, it was classic self-sabotage. I couldn’t just let myself receive and enjoy what I’d built because I hadn’t fully owned the internal pattern that said, “I’m not enough to have this.”

That unowned belief hijacked the wheel and steered me straight into exhaustion.

That's my story. What's yours?

The one thing I want you to remember: ownership is power. And it’s the first step toward freedom.

Reflection Prompts:

1. Can you recall a time when everything was going well—and then out of nowhere, you sabotaged the momentum?
   (What happened? What did you do, and what was the pattern behind it?)

2. Was there a specific moment when you were triggered and reacted in a way you later regretted?
   (Who was involved? What did it cost you emotionally, relationally, or professionally?)

3. Have you ever walked away from something you really wanted because of fear, doubt, or overwhelm?
   (What excuse did the pattern use to convince you? What did it feel like afterward?)

4. Think of a time when you were emotionally reactive—shutting down, blowing up, or numbing out.
   (What was underneath that? Was it an old wound or fear?)

5. Is there a pattern that used to show up a lot—like people-pleasing, overworking, perfectionism, or defensiveness—that you can now recognize more easily?
   (What’s an example of when it ran the show without you realizing?)

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• Book a Born Brilliant Activation Call

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You were born brilliant. You’ve just been conditioned to forget.

Now is the time to remember.

Welcome to your becoming.

Hugs and high vibes,
Vania